Redefining Our “Best”

Recently, I asked my mom what my Chinese name meant in Chinese. Apparently, 家翹 means “the best in the family”. So many things clicked in my mind. I thought to myself, “Wow! Even before I had accomplished a single thing in my life, she already named me as ‘the best in the family’.” And I know how this can sound – That’s so nice! Your parents named you the best just as you were. You didn’t need to accomplish anything for them to think you’re the best! That was not what my brain thought. 

My brain thought, “I hadn’t even accomplished anything and I was already expected to be the best. I had pressure from when I was born to be the best!” And funnily enough, that’s what I thought when I was a kid when my mom would compliment me to her friends in front of me. I thought, “I’m not what she’s describing. And now I have to go be that person she described” – those standards that felt so impossible to achieve.

I’d like to believe that I grew up achieving that “best” my parents intended for me to be. I am high achieving, I have a strong work ethic, I am educated and articulate. Low key, I thank them for that and I thank my younger self for thinking about things in such an anxious way – it got me to where I am today. But now, I strive to be the version of “best” that I want myself to be. A version that is true to myself, kind, loving, accepting, and embraces being a flawed human. A version who believes that life is about growing alongside those around us and showing people the path they were meant to take. I want to be my version of “best”. What is your version of “best”?

Author: Jacklyn Chung, RP, CCC

Clinical Director, Registered Psychotherapist

Jacklyn Chung

“I truly believe that the purpose of life is to love — to learn to love others and to learn to love ourselves.”

Hello, my name is Jacklyn and I am the Founder of Karkiu Psychotherapy and Counselling. I love seeing you take this first step towards your inner healing and am happy to ease you into the process of therapy! I am a Registered Psychotherapist with CRPO and have been working in the field of mental health and education for over 10 years. As the Clinical Director, I oversee all cases that come through the practice – whether with me or with one of our Associates.

As your therapist, I use a balance between comfort and challenge in helping you discover who you are today, work on healing from past wounds, and improve your relationships. The aim is for you to develop a secure attachment within yourself and a sense of self-acceptance in who you are as a whole. We focus on strengths and self-compassion to assist you in building skills that will help you remain resilient and gritty. 

My clients are typically adult individuals who struggle with depression, anxiety, trauma, grief, identity loss, and relationship issues. I use a client-centered approach that empowers the individual to meaningfully regulate their inner experiences through culturally sensitive techniques, mindfulness practice, emotion-focused and trauma-informed theories.

I hope that we have the honour of working with you to discover, shape, and implement whatever healing looks like for you!

  • Depression | Suicide Ideation
  • Anxiety | Stress | Burnout
  • Work or School Related Stresses
  • Trauma including Childhood Trauma
  • Relationship Issues
  • Anxious or Avoidant Attachment Styles
  • Family Conflict
  • Sex and Intimacy
  • Grief | Life Transitions
  • Identity Development | Racial Identity
  • Bipolar Disorder
  • Borderline Personality Disorder 
  • Clinical Supervision
  • Therapist Identity
  • Intersectional Lens
  • Trauma-Informed
  • Emotion-Centered
  • ACT
  • Attachment
  • Compassion-Focused
  • DBT
  • Somatic Therapy
  • English
  • Cantonese
  • Registered Psychotherapist (Independent Practice) with College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario (CRPO)
  • Canadian Certified Counsellor with Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association (CCPA)
  • Master of Education (MEd) in Counselling Psychology from University of Ottawa
  • Master of Teaching (MT) in Intermediate/Senior Division from University of Toronto (OISE)
  • Bachelor of Science (BSc) in Honours Psychology and Human Resources Minor from University of Waterloo
  • EMDR Part 1 and 2 Intensive Training with EMDR Consulting
  • DBT Certification Training
  • Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training (ASIST) with LivingWorks and trained with Kids Help Phone Crisis Text Line as a Crisis Responder
  • “The Empowered Supervisor” Training and is a CRPO-qualified Clinical Supervisor
  • Formerly an Ontario Certified Teacher (OCT)